How to stop a snoring partner?

Snoring: an issue for both of you

No matter how much you love your partner, snoring can be a thoroughly frustrating experience – the snorer suffers from poor quality sleep, while you struggle to nod off against the backdrop of constant noise. This can be incredibly disruptive. If you sleep next to someone who snores, you’re likely to wake up feeling fatigued and experience the common symptoms of sleep deprivation, such as irritation, or lack of concentration – simply because the snoring is keeping you awake.

For some people, snoring gets so loud that it has the potential to cause hearing issues for their partner. It's not surprising, because some snores can reach up to 80 decibels, which is the equivalent to a jack hammer or motorcycle.¹

It's no fun for the snorer either! They may feel anxious and embarrassed when they sleep amongst other people when they travel. They may also feel personally responsible for causing an intimacy problem in your relationship by forcing you to sleep apart from them.

Thankfully, a few tips and a little education can go a long way in helping you catch more ZZZs even if your bed neighbour is snoring loud enough to wake the dead. 

What happens when someone snores?

Snoring isn’t uncommon. Approximately 50% of adults snore on occasion, while around 25% of us are actually routine snorers. It’s also more common in men. Like many health problems, snoring tends to get worse with age.²

The sound your partner produces when snoring occurs when air is restricted either through their nose or in their throat. When lying down, the muscles in their upper airway relax which creates what is known as 'airflow turbulence'.

When air is breathed in and out, the surrounding tissue vibrates, causing that familiar shuddering sound. If the muscles relax too much, they can cause a complete blockage in the airway, which stops the breath altogether, causing them to choke or cough to clear it.

Unfortunately, these subconscious responses can lead to disruptions in their sleep patterns and overall sleep quality, not to mention yours too. If snoring continues night after night, the effects can get quite serious. You may find that your partner experiences daytime fatigue, irritability, headaches and other health problems. Additionally, the loud and repetitive sound can affect you each and every night too.

Why is your partner snoring?

There are two main causes for snoring: temporary and structural factors.

Temporary factors

Snoring can be caused by a range of temporary factors, including sedative use, consumption of alcohol, excessive smoking, seasonal allergies, swollen tonsils, sleeping on their back and having a cold or flu. These factors occur for a short time and are not permanent.

For example, smoking can inflame airways, pollen may cause an allergic reaction, while alcohol and medication can relax the muscles within the throat, all of which restricts airflow. 

Structural factors

Structural factors are more long-term, and include excessive weight around the neck and the shape of their palate, nose and jaw.

For example, the nasal passages may be blocked due to polyp growth or a structural abnormality, or there may be irregularities with the soft palate or muscle tone within the throat which makes breathing while sleeping difficult.

Obstructive sleep apnea

Importantly, snoring may be an indicator of a more serious condition, known as obstructive sleep apnea. Over the long term, this condition can pose serious risks to your partner's health by increasing the risk of type 2 diabetes, stroke and heart disease.³

What can you do about your partner's snoring?

There are many reasons why people snore as well as a wide range of effective treatments, which is why it’s so  important to understand the specific cause of their snoring.

Unfortunately, there can be other medical consequences for your partner if their snoring is left untreated, including a lack of focus, daytime drowsiness due to interrupted sleep, low libido, and embarrassment.

However, if snoring is related to sleep apnea, then there can be a potential risk of high blood pressure, heart disease, or stroke.

How to manage or stop your partner snoring

The first thing to ask yourself is: how long have you noticed them snoring? Is it only recent or has it been happening for a while? Examining their habits may offer insight into what may be causing the issue. Our free Sleep Diary offers a system that can enable you or your partner to log sleep-related behaviours over a period of 7 days, which may give a clearer picture of the potential issues.

What is causing the snoring?

Read on to get a good idea of the factors that might be causing your partner’s snoring. Successfully addressing these factors can greatly help your partner overcome their nightly snoring. For example, reducing their consumption of alcohol or cigarettes, especially at night, can go a long way in ruling those causes out.

Overweight

Being overweight is quite a common cause of snoring, as excessive weight can increase the amount of tissue around the neck and place extra pressure on breathing passages. A combination of improved diet and exercise can help shed a few kilos, which may be sufficient to ease this issue.

Sleeping position

If your snoring partner sleeps on their back, you can try using a pillow to elevate their head or turn them onto their side. These positions place them more at an angle and help open the airways as they sleep, reducing the vibrations in their throat.

Water

Having a dry mouth or throat can amplify snoring sounds as the passageways lose their flexibility. Try keeping a glass of water beside the bed to encourage your partner to remain hydrated before and during the night. This can soften the passageways and allow easier breathing.

Background noise

Playing some gentle sounds, such as white noise, pink noise, environmental sounds or soft music may help mask the snoring noise so that you can improve the quality of your sleep.

Stagger your sleep times

If you know your partner snores, perhaps a simple solution may be to go to bed earlier than they do. This will give you time to relax and fall asleep in silence before they join you later on.

Soft earplugs

Blocking the noise may be a temporary solution to the snoring issue. Wearing soft and non-invasive earplugs will help you muffle the sound so you can get a better night's sleep.

Sleeping apart

While it may not be desirable for partners to sleep apart, especially over longer periods of time, sleeping in different rooms during the night can help you get some relief. But just remember to make time for intimacy!

When to seek professional help with snoring

Snoring is often overlooked because people underestimate how serious it can be. If the above remedies are just not working and you're noticing that your partner's snoring is getting worse and not better, it's time to recommend that they have a home sleep test.

Habitually loud snoring can indicate that something may be seriously wrong. If you hear your partner snorting or gasping for air frequently throughout the night, it could mean they have obstructive sleep apnea.

People who suffer from obstructive sleep apnea have a chronic condition of restricted airways, meaning that they snore frequently. Unfortunately, their snoring is so severe that they actually stop breathing for a few seconds at a time throughout the night, causing them to briefly wake up with a choke or gasp, take in the oxygen they need, and resume breathing. This happens repeatedly all night, often without them even realising.

Besides your personal discomfort from the noise, waking up like this is quite stressful on their body and not conducive to a restful night’s sleep. Many people with sleep apnea may also have high blood pressure³ and other related conditions, so if you suspect your partner has sleep apnea, order a home sleep test to find out for sure whether they have sleep apnea.

The basic home sleep test is a simple DIY kit that will be sent to you through the mail. It will enable your partner to test their sleep in the comfort of their own home, and send the results back for professional analysis.

However, if your partner isn’t ready to take a home sleep test at this stage, you might find it easier to persuade them to use our free sleep assessment first, before considering other steps.

How a free sleep assessment can help with a snoring partner?

Our free sleep assessment will ask your partner a series of simple questions designed to help them understand whether their snoring is a possible sign of obstructive sleep apnea.

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